What is your body yelling??? Are you listening??

In 2015, I ended up at the MAYO clinic in the US. I now know, looking back, that this was the moment in time that shifted my entire soul forward.

Up until 2015 – I was living my life like society asked us too. I wanted to fit in. I want to show the world I could do it too. I met an incredible man in 2005, moved in together in 2006, got married in 2008 and had our children 2009/2011. In 2012 I started back to work and my goal was “to the top”. I was ready to show the world the superhuman that was Nancy F***ING Seibel.

I laugh as I write this, as despite the fact that I was trying so hard to fit in and do everything, the universe had so many different plans for me….

In 2009 upon the delivery of my first beautiful girl – I was blessed with a “fu** up” in the delivery room that shifted it all. They made a mistake in my bloodwork and caused all of us (doctor and nurses included) to believe that there was a chance I wasn’t going to make it out the delivery room. They coded me, I felt the emotions that day (as I am a SUPERPOWER feeler) of death and more importantly – it was all a mistake. As a result, my beautiful Lucy was born into this world and I felt NOTHING. PTSD hit hard after that, and instead of pausing to tune in- I kept moving forward. A diagnosis of Hashimoto’s (thyroid) soon followed and yet – I chose to keep showing up -as I knew, I had to be a MOM.

I was a “fake it til I make it” type of girl. I was taught early in life that if you show up confidently and keep learning, you can do and be anything. The greatest wake up call came when I realized I could not do this with my kids and more importantly – myself and my health.

I am amazed, looking back, at how invincible we as HUMANS really are and yet, it can only go so far…

By the time 2015 had hit – I had conquered and built an amazing life that looked incredible on facebook and looked at though I had achieved all the goals society asked me too…

On the inside – I  had nothing left. I was numb. I wasn’t feeling and more importantly, I wasn’t listening. My body was picking up all the sickness and underneath the authentic positivity of Nancy – I was losing my power within.

The wake up calls came as my children started to yell and cry daily and more importantly – my body started to wither away and yell louder and louder. 

By the time I ended up at the MAYO clinic – I was sick and yet still fully functioning. My thyroid had been so high and my body so off that I should have been hospitalized and yet I was still SHOWING up – at work, at CrossFit and at HOME.

I became labelled “crazy”. I became a hypercondriac and yet, I knew deep down I wasn’t well.

I am blessed for my Mom. She saw what I was attempting to carry and knew that if she didn’t get me help, I wouldn’t make it in this world.

After five years of showing up at the doctor’s office weekly, having multiple tests that showed nothing wrong and being given pill after pill for symptoms that manifested even more symptoms, we had had enough of the medical system and went to the US for help.

That week at the MAYO clinic is why I am still here and begging you to listen.

That week I wasn’t given a diagnosis of death. I was given a diagnosis of opportunity- FIBROF***INGMYAGIA…..and CHRONIC FATIGUE…and a huge opportunity to shift it all.

I was given a choice that day and words that resonated in my soul that I’ve carried with me since. “THERE IS NO YOU, WITHOUT YOU.

You are welcome to go HOME and continue on this path you are on, however I am NOT sure you will come back here next year 

OR…..

you can go home, PAUSE it all, UNRAVEL it all and REWIRE it all.

You have kids at home that need you to be here. You have this job that you’ve chosen to put all your priority into and more importantly you are attempting to “keep up with the joneses” and it’s killing you….

You must STOP and the only person who’s going to make you do that – is you.

This choice all comes back to YOU.

I wasn’t prescribed more meds that day however what I was prescribed, shifted it all – REST. MINDFULNESS and a FULL STOP.

I remember being told to go home, put on my housecoat and watch a full series of a show on the couch. This was something I had NO Idea how to do…

I was a triple type A personality with a drive and determination that allowed me to push through anything and now I was being asked to stop….FULL F***ING STOP.

WTF. I am invincible? I can fight and push through anything….

I don’t have PTSD

I don’t have anxiety

I don’t have work to do ON myself…..

This is everyone else’s fault…

I am amazing the way I am….

I am a fighter and can conquer anything….

I am FINE….

I feel….

I don’t numb….

WTF…..

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA.

I chose that day to go home and make a decision that shifted my whole life. To take all the effort I so easily gave away to others and learn how to put it back on myself. To learn how to embrace the things I was so afraid of and to learn how to use the powerful tools of mindfulness and rewiring that I’d be taught to shift it all….

The most important lesson that day – to stop fighting myself and to learn how to start loving myself…..

FUCKKKKKKK….

Today, I am seven years out and my perspective has completely shifted…

I no longer have the career path of becoming CEO….except of my own life…

I am an amazing Mother with two beautiful strong girls that mirror who I’ve become – from the inside out

I am a superpower feeler AGAIN in my ability to feel and flow through emotions using them as my guide…

I am now a Divorced woman with an ex-husband who is my friend and our #1 mission is our children

I am a HUMAN that embraces all aspects of my mind, body and soul

I am a cannabis user (now on occasion) and now take ONLY one PILL a day to manage my health (was on 100mg of an antidepressant)

I am a CrossFit junky

I have FIBRO and CFS however they do not define me – they guide me….

Most importantly of all – I am a HUGE believer in myself and the LOVE I have for myself, overpowers everything else.

Brene Brown wrote a quote in one of her books that when I read, I almost vomited and yet, it’s been my guiding force forward. “You cannot truly love others, until you love yourself.”

I remember calling bullshit on this quote and yet, knowing what I do now and feeling what I feel now – I know she is right.

My ask after reading my story isn’t for empathy or compassion. If you resonate with any of it, I need you to PAUSE and ask yourself right now to do something differently as a result.

Choose you.

Find a way to start small and start choosing you…

Find a way to embrace the sides of yourself you aren’t listening to….and trust that you are worthy of it.

THERE IS NO YOU, WITHOUT YOU….and the only choice you have is RIGHT now.

You are welcome to wait for your wake up call on your health, however know that if you aren’t listening, what may come, may scare you so much that you are no longer capable to shift…..

I beg you to tune in.

I beg you to make NOW the time you do….

You are so fucking worthy of it.

Bye for now.

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Why our KIDS aren’t Thriving? The Mirror reflection that will Reveal it all…


What if your kids aren’t thriving because deep down you aren’t either?

What if your kids are the key to unlocking the emotions you hold within and all you’ve got to do right now is lean in and observe?

What if you are about to stop reading because you “feel” you aren’t NUMB and yet your kids are yelling in a way you’ve never seen before?

What if, this post today isn’t about igniting guilt but empowering your next step as a parent – right now.

I am sitting back, reading all about the incredible chaos that our children are feeling and its igniting a frustration in me that I need to share.

My wake up call came when my girls were two and four. I was attempting to take on the world and be a superhero in all aspects of my life and I was failing miserably. I was rocking my priority of work and failing in the place that mattered most – at home. I was faking it all and hoping that like everything else – if I faked it, I’d eventually make it. I was NUMBING it all – hoping it would pass. 

My kids were yelling every day and despite the fact I was using calming tools to shift my energy – they saw through it all….and showed up in a way I had NO IDEA HOW TO DEAL WITH.

So – like us all right now – we visited the counsellors office for help. We sat in that office for about $5000 worth of counselling and no kids ever showed up. As the conversations flowed – It was becoming clear to me that I needed the courage to ask a very powerful question  that I was avoiding and yet, I knew I needed to hear the answer.

Why aren’t my kids here?

 We are hoping to get guidance and help with our kids, however they aren’t here for you to observe???

Why not?

The answer that came that day shifted my entire life…

In that moment, I fully admit –  I cowered with guilt, shame, sadness and fear as she spoke….

YOUR KIDS ARE A MIRROR REFLECTION OF WHO YOU ARE. 

They are superpower feelers and their abilities to show you your emotions within are incredible. 

All you’ve got to do as a parent is TUNE in, observe how they are showing up and use this as your guide to move forward.

WHAT?

I am not angry?

I am not crying endlessly?

I am not screaming and looking at myself with such frustration and anger???

WTF???????

The next thing she said blew my mind. 

What if you are?

 What if, underneath the way you “think” you are showing up is actually the truth and you’ve NUMBED it all because it’s the only coping strategy you’ve been taught??

What if, the best way forward isn’t to attempt to fix your children, but instead DIVE deep into yourself and face the emotions you’ve been NUMBING your entire life??

You have no idea the spiral downward that came after this moment.

I didn’t believe her so I went home and did research of my own to find out – SHE WAS SPOT ON.

The science that backs this claim is incredible. Epigenetic’s proves that kids are actually in a meditative state until the age of eight to learn HOW to show up in this world and take in how society needs us to exist. ​​There is so much to learn in those first eight years of life that nature actually intuitively aligns us with those around us to become our greatest mirrors. Who are those people? Our parents, our friends, the environments we surround ourselves with. The ways we are taught to cope, the ways they love and the ways we treat others are all a reflection of the things we’ve taught them – unconsciously as parents. It is only after the age of eight that their brains shift into another state and this state opens the door to perspective. As we all know – perspective only comes in time with lessons and awareness and this process takes a lifetime.

UGH…..

The reflection I saw of the two young girls SCREAMING at me daily was SO HARD TO see and accept and yet now – I know all of this to be true….

Almost six years later – the reflection we now see as a result of this profound awareness is why I need you to hear what I’m yelling.

YOU have CHOICE only in the NOW. 

We cannot look back and stay too long in the guilt we are choosing to hold as a result of this awareness – we must see the opportunity in what is being asked and move forward knowing we are the key to unlocking it all.

So if your kids are giving you dirty looks….

NOT talking about their emotions…

Talking unkindly of others

Judging others…

Focusing too much on their looks…

Having Perfection issues…..

Anger issues

Anxiety issues

Too much technology issues

Distraction issues..

Here is your WAKE UP CALL.

STOP BLAMING YOUR KIDS

STOP TRYING TO FIX YOUR KIDS

START becoming aware of your greatest opportunity right now – YOUR GROWTH.

If you are choosing to raise your children as your parents did and not adapting to the ever changing world around us – you will be in for a wake up call when you watch your kids continue to barely survive in this world.

It’s time we did it differently and the time is NOW….

The greatest gift that happens as a result? 

As I went inward and felt through the NUMBNESS I created – what came was a newfound love of flow, of trust and of intuitive guidance and more importantly a newfound love of myself.

When we love ourselves and strive for happiness within – we show our kids they are worthy of the same. You have this same choice…trust me…the time is NOW.

I hope this wake up call wakes you up….

I leave you with this…

Mirror mirror on the wall, 

You have the choice to shift it all.

Follow the path back towards you, 

and watch magic happen in all that you do.

Our kids are the reason we must choose to thrive,

Now, more than ever, they need us to guide….

We only have “ choice” – right now in the now…

So choose to grow, shift and change and be open to wow!

BYE for now.

Trust in the Process

This year, more than ever, we’ve been asked to TRUST. Trust the unknown and know that for whatever reason, we are being asked to just BELIEVE that everything will turn out ok.

I know you’ve heard this phrase before and yet, I am here to remind you how powerful it truly is.

What if, everything you’ve gone through had to happen for you to get RIGHT here. RIGHT NOW. What if, right now, you now have a new opportunity to see your path differently and it all comes down to one thing….

CHOICE in the NOW and PERSPECTIVE in how you see it all. My Mom was amazing at shifting perspective and her motto of life is what got us through the worst. Her words “choose your attitude” have been at the forefoot of every choice I’ve had to make and change I’ve had to endure.

I’ve moved more times than fingers can count. My bigs moves as a kids changed who I am as a human today. My first was Grade Nine. I will never forget that November when my Dad lost his job. It was 1995 and I can still tell you where I was standing the day I found out. I was 15 years old, I finally had discovered who I was (or so I thought), had my first boyfriend who I honestly thought I would spend the rest of my life with and poof – we were moving. We packed our bags and moved from Newfoundland to Halifax. This moment is etched in my body as the first of many moments that changed who I am.

The next move was Grade 12. The middle of grade f***ing 12. This time from Halifax to Toronto. My family did everything they could to allow me to stay, however half way through the year, I gave up and came home. This meant another year of school as Toronto had OAC. This also meant that everything that I had dreamed of doing and being as a grade 12 student had to be realigned. To this day – I still remember what it felt like to walk across the stage of a school not really knowing anyone.

I remember these moments as if they were yesterday and over the years as I’ve felt them time and time again, There are moments I look back and wonder and yet, the human I’ve become, including these moments, has made me one strong, resilience person.

Choosing your attitude.

In order to flow through change, we must find tools. These tools build the muscles we need to flow through change. Regardless of how much we resist change, the world is full of it, so if we have any choice in how we move forward – the greatest advice I could ever give is “choose your attitude”.

Every move, we made as a family – my mom made it FUN. She always guided us to see the good and more importantly, she did small things to ensure we never felt sad for long. Every 30 days for the first year after my move from Newfoundland, I flew back and in Grade 12 – I was blessed with two graduations rather than one.

CHOICE, PERSPECTIVE. ATTITUDE.

As I moved as a MOM, I’ve done the same. We’ve move a lot as a family (two moves back to Halifax and a recent divorce move) and yet, my kids resilience muscle has grown so much, I know, they will be better off for it.

So today – I offer you choice.

What if today, you used that choice to see it differently?

Resilience, strength, courage, bravery. They all come from change and transition.

They all come from letting go of the sadness and choosing your attitude to see the good.

As parents, now, more than ever, we must chose to see the good. If kids really are the mirror reflection of who we are. then showing them how to flow in change – is our greatest opportunity forward.

So, if you must move, know one thing – it’s going to feel awful, it’s going to feel as though you will never get through it and yet, one the other side of it all is a powerful opportunity to grow shift and change.

I wouldn’t change the HUMAN I am today – I bet you wouldn’t either.

So today, wrap yourself in the amazing love you are and know that CHOOSING you ATTITUDE could be the answer you are seeking to shift it all.

Bye for now.

Why NOVA SCOTIA for your FAMIY….

The East Coast of Canada is one of the most beautiful places to live, especially if you are a family.

My family has move TWICE back to Nova Scotia from Toronto and both times settled in very different areas. The first time we needed to be surrounded by like minded people and picked a community in Spryfield that was all NEW parents. Kidston Estate became HOME for three years and the FUN we had will forever be imprinted in my soul. We had New mom groups, parties and our community was exactly what we needed at the time to raise young kids. The houses were close together and our kids took over the streets daily to play activities and be kids. The friends we had, the community “feel” we felt and more importantly, the sense of HOME is what drew us to this neighbourhood the moment we stepped in.

The second time we came back to Halifax (all moves were corporate), we wanted property. We were sick of sitting on top of our neighbours and really wanted a country feel close to amenities so we chose White Hills out in Hammonds Plains. This community is about 15-20 min away from everything, the houses run on wells, and all houses are surrounded by nature and lots of property. There is a neighbourhood bear that visit the hood often and daily you can find pictures of lynx and other amazing animals on the facebook page. Its quite peaceful as you drive in and you feel as if you are literally in the country standing in your backyard. It’s magical and for my family, at that time, it was the perfect place for us to find HOME and PEACE.

Now, after going through a divorce last year – I live at the Bedford Waterfront overlooking Dewolf Park in a beautiful CONDO in Bedford, NS. This incredible, amazing place sits right on the Ocean with walking trails and parks surrounding me. The community is “Older” in nature and yet, the feel of safety and HOME is what I needed to heal after my year of transition and change.

Three different communities, all within 20 minutes of each other, all offering very different lifestyles for your family.

So why? Why would you (and your family) ever move to NOVA SOCTIA??

The number one reason??? The prices of houses and what you get for your money. The dream house you’ve been dreaming about??? Everything you’ve ever wanted in a house is available and you will be blown away by what you get for your money.

The world has shifted after COVID. It no longer about money and things…Now, more that ever connection and family are the most important. It what all of us need to cultivate and more importantly – its what all of us need to thrive.

What else does NOVA SCOTIA offer?

  • PEOPLE who smile and wave at you for NO reason…
  • A slower pace of life – the TIM Hortons drive threw takes longer than in Toronto and yet the conversation and smile you will receive will shift your day.
  • The feeling that we work together as a community (as shown during COVID)
  • Oceans and nature at your fingertips
  • lakefront property close to amenities
  • Small town feel with big city mentality
  • Dream neighbourhoods

Our families deserve for us, as parents to feel our best and moving to the EAST COAST gave us this freedom.

When moving from a different province, you need an Agent that knows the area. You need an Agent that has experienced what you are about to go through. I am that girl. I can guide your family through it all.

If you are ready for change, if you are seeking more family time and a dream home that you never imagined possible, maybe it’s time to take a look at Nova Scotia.

I am the Real Estate agent that bring HEARTS and guides your family to find HOME.

Take a look at what the beautiful province of NOVA SCOTIA has to offer and reach out if your ready to find your DREAM HOME

Nancy Seibel

Golden Realty Team

902 430 4806

nancy@soldongold.ca

Cheers for now.