**This post isn’t meant to come from any other place, but from a place of love and opportunity. My intention is to make you laugh and to move forward, knowing that small powerful concepts can truly shift it all. Enjoy
The word F**K…
This word is my ultimate superpower.
When added to any word, it can shift an entire moment.
Out of chaos and into courage.
Out of anger and into laughter…..
It can take a new found friendship from uncomfortable to “I fu**ing love you” within minutes, if said with a smile.
It can take a word and make it magical….Absofu**inglotely is my fav.
It can take a moment of “I can’t” to “F**k it, lets do it anyway”
For me, it’s become my courage word.
When I’m getting ready to do something big….I often call on its power to ignite, in my body, what it needs to show up….
How? By standing tall and saying it out loud….
Let’s do this….Remember who you are…
I am NANCY Fu**ing SEIBEL
From there, I can do FU**ING ANYTHING…..
To me, it’s not just a word.
It has become a powerful concept that I’ve learned to use to guide my soul forward in all aspects of my life. After coming back from the MAYO clinic and being sh** Scared of the diagnosis I’d been given, I knew I had no choice but to move forward and find a way to “be afraid and do it anyway”….
I knew I had to call on the warrior within and yet, I couldn’t feel her anymore.I had lost myself so much in all the wrong things that I was about to give up on it all. The challenge was – I couldn’t and you can’t either….
Regardless of how much guilt we carry – how messed up we feel or how “off kilter” our lives are – we must show up for our kids. There were SO many days, I could barely stand tall this year – let alone these last five years and yet, they are the reason I stand taller, stronger and more at peace than ever….you have this same opportunity.
I am a grower. I am a human with a belief that everyday we must show up better than yesterday and this is NOT for ourselves anymore, but for our children. My kids and I are at the stage (both 10 and 12) where they call me out. I’ve spent years guiding them to show up as their authentic selves with kindness and truth – so I give them permission to call me out when they feel I am not aligned with the same.
I often tell my kids that just because adults wear adult suits, doesn’t always mean we do it well. We too aren’t perfect and we too make mistakes. Those mistakes, when we are adults, are meant to guide us to grow, to guide us to take responsibility for our own actions and more importantly, to learn from them so that we do it differently next time. Unfortunately, right now – this is NOT our #1 approach, and it’s why I’m speaking out loud….
We cannot tell our kids to do things that we, as adults, don’t do ourselves. We are their teachers, their guides, their mirrors and if we are off kilter, or unkind to others or judgmental of our own selves (or others) – then it’s pretty likely that they are going to do the same….
In this past year, my daughter has come to me with a few call outs that, in the past, would have taken me out. Now, after years of practice, these moments make me realize how lucky we are as parents to have this powerful mirror that is at play.
I now laugh at the fact that at ten, she is capable of this and I use it as MY reset to ensure I’m aligned with my truths…
Two times that her call outs “dug deep”….
- “Mommy, you tell us to look you in the eyes when speaking and you’ve stopped. You are so distracted by your phone and not present with us, it doesn’t feel very nice”….UGH…..
- The ultimate gut wrenching moment that really aligned me with the mirror was the day she got in the car after two days of anger and frustration towards each other. When I attempted to cut her off with my words, she paused and said the following “you often say you mirror me MOM, however, I’ve been at school feeling all your anger and sadness today (the connection amongst kids and parents is huge) and I’m calling you out because its not me you are mirroring, it’s yourself”…
Wholly FU**KKKKKKKKK…This power of energy that flows between our kids and ourselves is magical. Kids are super power feelers and this knowing isn’t to make you feel more guilty, but to empower you with the knowledge that it may be time to do something different….
So back to my favourite word.
I love Fu** so much that I’ve built a concept around it and this concept has gotten me through the times when I can barely carry myself.
When I am not mirroring my best self to the world, I no longer look outward for guidance. I go within and use this powerful concept of “FU** IT” to find a way to do it differently.
So here it is….
If you don’t like swearing, FACK it works too!!
F**K IT
F – yell F**KKKKKKKKKK really loud or internally (if you can’t yell)….PAUSE, take a breathe, giggle within…..and FORGIVE yourself (you are only HUMAN)
U – UNDERSTAND and ACCEPT (if you don’t like to swear) that you are HUMAN and that it’s not what you do in the moment that matters, it’s what you do AFTER that matters most….so find a way forward differently and DO IT RIGHT NOW. If you need a friend to talk it out with, do it. Perspective is key here.
C– learn to have COMPASSION and CARE for yourself in the moment. If you are not speaking to yourself the way you do for others when they are struggling, now is the time to start….what would you say to a friend in this moment, are you doing the same of yourself???
K – KARMA – We cannot “fake out” KARMA. We get what we give as HUMANS. If you are not showing up as your best self and not doing things wholeheartedly from a place of love and authenticity, the karma you get sucks until you CHOOSE to do it differently. Accept your KARMA and try again. Learn from your KARMA, that’s why it’s here.
I – IT take choice in the NOW – the present MOMENT
T – TO make CHANGE.
This concept, this approach to life, has allowed me so many moments of courage to do it differently and as a result, it’s completely shifted my KARMA and my life.
I offer you this same opportunity. The reality is, we are all feeling “off” right now, so the only way forward isn’t to keep dwelling on what we aren’t doing, but to find small ways to do it differently.
What if, F**K IT is your way forward…the time is now to try it out…
If all else fails and you get nothing out of this blog post, know that inserting “FU**” between your first and last name can give you such an empowering feeling that it may be all you need to move forward.
We are all HUMAN….we all have such choice in this world and all I know is that I want my kids to do it differently than I did….which means I must reflect the ultimate in truth, acceptance, and forgiveness in my mirror…maybe it’s time you did too….
FU** It……you are so fucking worthly of trying it out….your time is NOW
I have a concept for kids too…it’s called CHUCK IT…i’ll write about it next time…
Bye for now my friends. Thank you for listening to my call out 🙂
The Nancy Perspective 