The Self Love Opportunity….

I have one mission with this blog post – To wake you up to the magic that comes with self love, if chosen to embrace from a place of love.

Underneath all the pain you have endured, the sadness you have held and the numbing you did not even know you were doing, is a person worth believing in again.

Trust me. I know this deep down in my soul because I have been you.

I lost myself in sickness. I lost myself because I tried to take on the world and conquer it like the warrior I was, and I failed miserably. To date, this has become my greatest blessing.

For I, like many of us, was on a path of destruction towards money, power and “keeping up with the Jone’s” that I almost did not have a life to keep up with anymore.

My blessing came seven years ago, when my mom dragged me to the MAYO clinic thinking I was dying to finding out it was ONLY CFS and FIBRO. I had pushed my body to its limits and had no choice but to find a way to do it differently.

I came home on ten pills a day from the MAYO clinic and over the course of these last seven years, I have come off all of them – except my thyroid ones. I was on 100 mg a day of an anti-depressant for three years and now the only thing I require is a few puffs of weed at night to help me sleep and that is it.

I call my wake up call my greatest blessing – not because it has not been easy healing from the inside out, but because it was all I needed to wake me up to what I had been missing out on – ME.

Would you be surprised to know that finding my way back to self love, from the inside out, was my greatest healing ever out of FIBRO and CFS?

Not only did it heal me, but its power also healed the two most important people in my world – my girls. When we choose to heal us from the inside out – the reflection and the mirror guides others to do the same, especially those who are close to our hearts. The more I healed and embraced the happiness and self love within, the more I saw it happening within my girls too and that alone, has pushed me to a place I never imagined I would be.

What if, through seeking self love, one small step at a time (vs. the all or nothing mentality we have all tried to embrace), we can unravel all the anger, sadness, ho hum, etc. you hold within and start to shift it all.

It starts with choosing you.

A small step every single day – regardless of how small the step is and celebrating it all, MOMENT BY MOMENT, STEP BY STEP.

What if today, all you did was this: You know how much you love your kids? Your dog? You know what you would do for them to keep them happy?

What if, today, all you did, was take some of that love you so easily give to others and shifted it back to you. A little at a time. A small step at a time.

What if, while you did this, you also choose to start seeing things differently – you slowly started to shift your perspective out of your head and into your heart – out of the overthinking and towards the love and compassion you so easily share with others.

Perspective really is our greatest choice forward. Perspective really has the power to change everything. Regardless of what happens, how you see it can either force you deeper into the hole or empower you to rise beyond the hole and it all comes down to a simple shift in thinking.


Yes, you will not be perfect at this and YES you will fail daily, however the lessons you will learn as you do just may empower you to keep pushing.

I am seven years in – shifting my perspective moment by moment and making small steps daily towards self love and the magic surrounding me is incredible.

As I have healed, I continue to grow and learn and do it all with love and compassion wrapped around my soul. I am far from perfect and fu** up often, however, when I do, I remind myself to wrap all the love I so easily give away, around me, knowing I have the choice to try again in the next moment.

I have lost everything on my journey back to self love – my career path, my marriage, my old self however what I’ve gain – happiness and peace from the inside out and what I see in my kids – kindness, compassion and love beaming – I know, that regardless of the pain I have felt, I am on the right path forward.

Choosing me. Choosing happiness, choosing my heart.

You time is NOW. Trust me. What you believe in yourself to be true, is true and today is the DAY to make the choice to start seeing it again- moment my moment, choice by choice and perspective by perspective.

You are so worthy of this shift and now, more than ever, the world is asking you to do so.

WE must choose love and love that is cultivated from the inside out has the power to create all that you have ever desired.

You are one small step away from it. Stop telling yourself otherwise.

If you are feeling stuck, reach out. I offer sessions that guide souls forwards and now more than ever, you are so worthy of it.

Bye for Now

Nancy Fu**ing Seibel

The Nancy Perspective


When the HELPER becomes the one who needs HELP…

I used to love being asked for help.

I have always been the helper, the one who wears an invisible shirt that says “tell me your life story and Ill listen’.

I am the one people found at parties to empower me with the deepest parts of their soul….and I listened….

I was the one that was there for everyone….

The one everyone counted on, regardless of how hard my day had been or what I’ve been asked to flow through…

Like so many of us – I always put myself aside….to help…

I did this..until my body YELLED in a way I had no choice, but to listen. I was EMPTY….BUCKET toppled over and STOMPED on….

I got sick…and when you get sick…the fear of death takes over and its incredible what happens after….

You become scared and that fear drives you to do things differently….

When I made the choice to stop helping….it was so so so SCARY and I felt so off balance….

Those friends I was always there helping stopped calling…

My relationship fell apart…..

My life fell apart because I didn’t know HOW to give myself the LOVE I so easily gave away to others….

It was scary as FUCK… especially when it happened as I was learning to stand alone..

So many of us right now are walking around very empty inside – using things as our way to FEEL better….using HELPING as our strategy of NOT dealing with our shit….

What if today, you heard me out..

When I made the decision to stop helping and instead, learned how to help myself and ask for help – I learned how to love myself…little by little…moment by moment….

My mom always said the greatest words to ever be said are “I need your help”

As I learned to STOP helping and instead learned what I needed to be my best self…what has come is magical….

I now know what I need to help myself in times of HARD…..

I now know coping strategies that help me when I’m not myself…

I now have FRIENDS who I can call on to ask for help…

The hardest part of shifting from a HELPER to an LOVER/HELPER of YOURSELF is cracking open your opportunity to RECEIVE love…

SO many of us have NO idea how to RECEIVE LOVE, especially our OWN love….

What does this even mean?

Let me ask you this…

What do you need in times of anger, sadness and frustration?

Is is someone who offers opinions? or is it someone who listens?

Can you even use your words to articulate when you need in times of HARD?

What do you do with yourself when you are not yourself?

Do you get ANGRY at you? Or do you wrap yourself in LOVE and hear what you beautiful, strong, amazing body is asking for?

RECEIVING love means knowing what you need in TIMEs of HARD and choosing to GIVE LOVE to you vs. what we so easily give instead….

What if today – you took one step back from HELPing and instead EMPOWERED your need for HELP…

Your need for love…

If you don’t know how to do this…then this weekend, I ask you to find out…

How did I?

I wrote down my superpowers as a HUMAN….

I am kind…

I am compassionate…

I am love….

When I realized who I was and what I was giving away….I used the words “I am ready to do this differently” and “I am open to giving and receiving love”

I said the out loud…to my times of HARD…

I took small moments in time to choose me…

I took small awareness opportunities to choose me…

and all of a sudden I realized, the power that came in doing so…

Now, I love to help again, because my bucket is full….my LOVE is a mirror from within and that alone brings a FEELING of something we are all truly worthy of…

When we choose us first – HELPing becomes joyful….

When we choose us first – LOVE starts the conversation and when LOVE flows through HUMANs – magic happens…

What if today…you made a choice to SLOW down the HELPING and instead HELPED you…or even ASKED FOR HELP…

The more we put us FIRST ….the more the energy of LOVE flows from within and this my friends…is the SUPERPOWER we’ve all been searching for….

Today I empower you to think differently…

You are so very worthy of it…

I wish you a magical Fucking day..


Nancy Fucking Seibel

The Nancy Perspective

** If you want more of Nancy….find me on my podcast…The Nancy Perspective on Spotify (have no idea how to put a link lol)