I used to love being asked for help.
I have always been the helper, the one who wears an invisible shirt that says “tell me your life story and Ill listen’.
I am the one people found at parties to empower me with the deepest parts of their soul….and I listened….
I was the one that was there for everyone….
The one everyone counted on, regardless of how hard my day had been or what I’ve been asked to flow through…
Like so many of us – I always put myself aside….to help…
I did this..until my body YELLED in a way I had no choice, but to listen. I was EMPTY….BUCKET toppled over and STOMPED on….
I got sick…and when you get sick…the fear of death takes over and its incredible what happens after….
You become scared and that fear drives you to do things differently….
When I made the choice to stop helping….it was so so so SCARY and I felt so off balance….
Those friends I was always there helping stopped calling…
My relationship fell apart…..
My life fell apart because I didn’t know HOW to give myself the LOVE I so easily gave away to others….
It was scary as FUCK… especially when it happened as I was learning to stand alone..
So many of us right now are walking around very empty inside – using things as our way to FEEL better….using HELPING as our strategy of NOT dealing with our shit….
What if today, you heard me out..
When I made the decision to stop helping and instead, learned how to help myself and ask for help – I learned how to love myself…little by little…moment by moment….
My mom always said the greatest words to ever be said are “I need your help”
As I learned to STOP helping and instead learned what I needed to be my best self…what has come is magical….
I now know what I need to help myself in times of HARD…..
I now know coping strategies that help me when I’m not myself…
I now have FRIENDS who I can call on to ask for help…
The hardest part of shifting from a HELPER to an LOVER/HELPER of YOURSELF is cracking open your opportunity to RECEIVE love…
SO many of us have NO idea how to RECEIVE LOVE, especially our OWN love….
What does this even mean?
Let me ask you this…
What do you need in times of anger, sadness and frustration?
Is is someone who offers opinions? or is it someone who listens?
Can you even use your words to articulate when you need in times of HARD?
What do you do with yourself when you are not yourself?
Do you get ANGRY at you? Or do you wrap yourself in LOVE and hear what you beautiful, strong, amazing body is asking for?
RECEIVING love means knowing what you need in TIMEs of HARD and choosing to GIVE LOVE to you vs. what we so easily give instead….
What if today – you took one step back from HELPing and instead EMPOWERED your need for HELP…
Your need for love…
If you don’t know how to do this…then this weekend, I ask you to find out…
How did I?
I wrote down my superpowers as a HUMAN….
I am kind…
I am compassionate…
I am love….
When I realized who I was and what I was giving away….I used the words “I am ready to do this differently” and “I am open to giving and receiving love”
I said the out loud…to myself..in my times of HARD…
I took small moments in time to choose me…
I took small awareness opportunities to choose me…
and all of a sudden I realized, the power that came in doing so…
Now, I love to help again, because my bucket is full….my LOVE is a mirror from within and that alone brings a FEELING of something we are all truly worthy of…
When we choose us first – HELPing becomes joyful….
When we choose us first – LOVE starts the conversation and when LOVE flows through HUMANs – magic happens…
What if today…you made a choice to SLOW down the HELPING and instead HELPED you…or even ASKED FOR HELP…
The more we put us FIRST ….the more the energy of LOVE flows from within and this my friends…is the SUPERPOWER we’ve all been searching for….
Today I empower you to think differently…
You are so very worthy of it…
I wish you a magical Fucking day..
Cheers
Nancy Fucking Seibel
The Nancy Perspective
** If you want more of Nancy….find me on my podcast…The Nancy Perspective on Spotify (have no idea how to put a link lol)
The Nancy Perspective 